Martial Arts Breed Violence?

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Martial Arts Breed Violence?

Poppycock 

Martial Arts Breed Violence, this is something we hear a lot.

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Often dad brings the kids along and raises concerns that mum believes Martial Arts Breed Violence.

It’s simply not true, ok there might be a small percentage of children that confuse the message early on. Though with good coaching this will be dealt with quickly, and yes, of course, there is always the exception.

Psychopaths make up 1% of the population so knowing that, one in a hundred, well maybe Military school ASAP.

Martial Arts Breed Violence – Play Circuit

Dr. Jaak Panksepp, a neuroscientist, psychologist and psychobiologist has written extensively about the importance of play. He discovered the motivations that the play circuit develops in kids and adults.

Some believe this work to be so important a discovery that the Nobel prize is fitting.

Martial arts develops the play circuit in children and adults. Rough and tumble play clearly defines the differences between aggression and assertiveness. While playing, supervised as in a martial arts classroom setting. Or alone with friends, an extremely important distinction. Children learn what boundaries are acceptable to the group and what is aggression and what is assertiveness.

Martial Arts Breed Violence – Ethics

Play also develops ethics. Martial arts develops ethics and fair play. Games, the classroom, the dojo. Well, there are rules, mostly unspoken otherwise the academy would be wall to wall posters and rules and that’s not much fun for anyone.

Over time the rules of the group, the culture become clear. People that don’t abide by the rules or ethics generally are not accepted into the group. We do get a few of these in the club every now and then, they simply find another club where their behaviour is acceptable, and that’s how society functions.

From street gangs to Olympic teams, the culture of the group dictates.

Martial Arts Breed Violence – Nonsense

No, is basically the answer to “Do Martial Arts Breed Violence”?

But we get it, on the surface, it can appear as if it does.

Remember – It’s better to be a warrior in the garden than a gardener on the battlefield. 

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Mum Knows Best

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Mum Knows Best

Or Does She?

There’s a lot of pressure with kids these days for parents to get everything perfect. Relax, the good parent fails and everything will turn out ok, No one knows best.

The Overbearing Mother, what kid would want to leave home if its made of sweets and everything is done for them? There’s a reason she’s a witch you know..

Mum Knows Best – Responsibility

One of the things you can do that is indisputable and of huge benefit for all is this

Give your kids more control over their own lives, this is without a doubt one of the most important things you can do. Responsibility breeds confidence and the feeling of autonomy is empowering for children.

It shows you trust them to make their own decisions, now you, of course, need to lead a little

Mum Knows Best – Consultant

We’re not talking handing over complete control here. As parents you give guidance, explain the negatives and positives in the different choices available. The ultimate decision should be the kids, and of course, a five-year-old will require a different approach than a hormonal teenager.

The evidence is in and the same applies to kids with ADHD and the wide range of disorders that are ever increasing.

Mum Knows Best – Anxiety Made Worse

It may feel like the right thing to do to protect kids with anxiety a little more than is usual. This can be the single worse thing you can do. It’s well studied, documented and agreed in virtually every profession worth its salt. That over protecting children with anxiety leads to far worse anxiety that can lead to depression and worse.

Overprotecting kids can cause anxiety as it can be interpreted by the child as mistrust. They feel they have no control which is a huge contributing factor to anxiety and depression

Mum Knows Best – Lack Of Control

Think about it, when you feel you have little control over external circumstances it’s somewhat worrying, even frightening. Now think how a ten-year-old or a fifteen-year-old feel. They are going through important brain development stages. They are fantastic at noticing behaviours and such things as control by parents but they are terrible at interpreting them.

Now add the amygdala response feeding cortisol into the system as they feel a lack of control, all this during serious brain development stages.

Mum Knows Best – Don’t Panic

Don’t steal responsibility from them, you won’t be around forever. Or worse, you will be.

“They come to this planet through you, though they are not …….” your’s”

They own their own lives, their problems are their own, control is an illusion.

If this subject fascinates you as much as it does me then here is a great book, to begin with

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Brave Kids

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Brave Kids

Brave kids, It’s less common to hear these days but an old known fact “Make them brave, not safe” is making a come back.

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Brave Kids- The Law

UTAH in the US has just passed a new law making it legal for parents to allow their kids out alone.

Let me repeat that. It’s now legal in UTAH to allow your kids to walk to school or play out on their own.

Why I hear you ask was it ever illegal?

The last few decades we have been guilty of wrapping our kids in cotton wool and its having negative social effects as well as mental health effects.

I’ll be writing in more depth about that this year as ive been deep in study covering this subject and i have a lot to say.

Brave Kids – Illusions?

Making kids safe is an illusion or at best massively misunderstood. For example, why did injuries in car accidents go up when baby seats were made law?

It is of course instinctive to make them safe but we do it at a cost. I’m not talking taking stupid risks here. Wear a helmet on your bike and be sensible, but take risks, you have to take risks.

We have thousands of stories and classic literature warning us of the dangers of the overbearing parent. There are fantastic tales with archetypal characters that represent the human psyche. The world is full of these stories, from Disney to Buddhism the warnings are there.

Brave Kids – Build them

So finally in UTAH, parents can let their children walk to school without being arrested. This shouldn’t be news, this shouldn’t be happening. The fact that it is, happens to be both good and bad. Good its happening, bad it ever was.

I wouldn’t normally post an advert, I despise most marketing (except my own) but this video has a great message

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Function First Black Belts

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Function First Black Belts

We Reward Hard Work

Function First Black Belts – We Give Back

So if you’re a Black Belt with us you’ve been training for a few years

You have shown commitment and loyalty and we recognise how important that is in the world

Because we value these attributes we reward them

Function First Black Belts – Free Training

Once you receive your Black Belt you are invited to join our Black Belt club

We upgrade you for free to the BB Club

Now unlike most other clubs, this is not something we charge extra for, we do not ask you to pay when you have shown true commitment.

Saturdays are Black Belt training days. We meet at 2.30 pm and train until 4 pm

We upgrade you for free to the Black Belt Club, our gift to you for what we consider to be important values in the world. 

Function First Black Belts – Skill Development

We coach you how to develop your own work, a much-neglected area in the arts.

Learning how to create drills that flow logically and with natural progressive movement is an important skill that can be transferred to the rest of life

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Function First Black Belts – Invisible doors

We believe in life invisible doors open for those who act with passion and commitment. We believe that unless the organisation is corrupt this is an integral feature of the working world.

We are all surrounded by invisible doors, they open when least expected but there are factors at play that open them. People talk about you, people notice behaviours

 

These are the keys to the invisible doors

By rewarding hard work and certain behaviours we believe we are preparing people for the real world and sending a positive message to all involved, kids and adults.

Some Other Ramblings

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Don’t Steal From Your Children

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Don’t Steal From Your Children

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Don’t steal from your children – You Tinkers

The moment your child can tie their own laces, make their own bed and pack their own equipment before training. This should now be their responsibility forever more. Doing it for them is robbing them of responsibility and essential skills for life.

Don't steal from your children

Don’t steal from your children – Start Young

You’ve no doubt heard someone repeat the following from someone, ive even heard this reported in the news. I mean the news report it as if a crime. That’s the sort of moral punch these actions carry

“It’s awful, they sacked her for work via a text message” or “She dumped him on Facebook, how terrible”

So the person sending these text messages and Facebook dear Johns learnt that behaviour from somewhere. I mean it must seem acceptable to them in some weird reality.

Don’t steal from your children – Seeing the lessons

I believe it boils down to responsibility and we start teaching that age 5 in our classes. Now here’s an example of how the above behaviour becomes acceptable.

James is 6 years old, he’s been at his martial arts club for a year now. He decides he wants to leave and try football. Nothing wrong with that. We all leave, I left my coach and he left his coach.

Now, when I left my coach I went to see him and I thanked him for his mentoring and passion. In fact, every single relationship I’ve ever been in when its time to move on I’ve made that dreaded visit and spoken face to face.

Don’t steal from your children – Take Responsibility

So James wants to leave after a year, so dad calls into the club to say he’s leaving. Now is dad going to tell James’s girlfriend they are splitting up? Or is dad going into work for James and telling them he’s got a new job.

Doubtful isn’t it, now I’m being silly but you get my point?

James aged 5 would be served well by parents if he were taught to speak to the people he’s in relationships with himself.

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Don’t steal from your children – Release good manners in the world

Its basically good manners, you’re releasing them into the world to figure so much out its mindboggling. If the basics are taught at an early age it makes things much smoother

You get out of this life what you put in, I’m not on about hippy nonsense here.

Like push ups, you do sloppy push ups in practice. You get sloppy push ups as a result

Relationships are the same. Give them little value and you get relationships with little value. Our human connections should be cherished and our friendships should be worked on, they take effort.

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We always offer a free trial in all our classes. We also recommend trying a few other clubs out first. Don’t go buying the first car you test drive, you need to make an informed decision.

Call Paula on 01522 543 787 to book your free trial

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Laser Beam Focus

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Laser Beam Focus

Mental Strength

Laser Beam Focus at Function First Lincoln

Laser Beam Focus

Focus and attention play a huge part in martial arts. When someone is moving around in front of you throwing kicks and punches it pays to be in the moment.

The mind is a tricky little thing though before you know it, there it goes. Thinking about PS4 or whats for tea.

Laser Beam Focus – New ways we have been working it with the kids

So in our kid’s classes, we have been working with some new simple techniques to improve focus. Into laser beam focus of course.

Thes can be used at home by the parent for two minutes at a time twice a week. We noticed almost instant results. Though saying that it is something that should be done with persistence. Over many years if you really want a warrior mindset

  1. Simply get a meditation bell (follow this link) Now sit down with your child, eyes closed. Ring the bell and when you can’t hear the bell any longer raise your hand. You can stop the bell ringing at different times. Or let it fade away naturally. This really does focus the mind and you can do it along with your child. Hey, you might feel the benefits too. Actually, let me rephrase that. You will definitely feel the benefits if you do this.
  2. Get a cushion, lay down and put it on your child’s belly. Instruct them to breathe in and move the cushion up, breath out and bring it down. Repeat, do this twice a week for two minutes at a time. Breathing techniques are at the heart of martial arts and meditation. Breathing helps you control your power, emotions and resistance to strikes. Join in with your kids, as with exercise 1 you will benefit from this enormously.

Laser Beam Focus – In a crazy distracted world

Just a few minutes a day can have a profound effect. In todays world the skill of controlling the mind, not being distracted. Well, I think we all know, Facebook, Twitter and on and on it goes.

Theis is not wishy-washy hippy nonsense. The studies are out, they have been confirmed by science and millions of people worldwide.

Look after your mind because the revolution is internal

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Cotton Wool Kids

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Are We Being Socially Controlled

Tut Tut You Let Them Out Alone?

“My child seems so mature and can walk herself to school because I let her walk herself to school”.

Joanna Williams

This woman is fascinating and touches upon some important social issues around children and education.

The reference about communist social control tactics sent a chill up my spine but we all resonate with different aspects, so see what makes your toes curl or inspires.

Once your child can do up their own laces or (BLANK FILL IN), that’s now their job for evermore. By stepping in, you are stealing from them, you are stealing responsibility, you are stealing work ethic, you are stealing so stop thief and allow them to suffer slightly.

My word I’m harsh eh,

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