Kids Bullying School Lies

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Kids Bullying School Lies

Kids Bullying School Lies

Kids Bullying School Lies – Lies?

I seem to be getting into this discussion with parents a lot again lately.

It starts something like this “My child was put in isolation for defending themselves”

Or one I had the other day “we ended up getting a solicitor to talk to the school and the solicitor said the school don’t allow kids to defend themselves”

Well excuse my bluntness, BUT that solicitor is an idiot and your kid’s school is lying to you.

Kids Bullying School Lies – Rights

I’m going to keep it simple, if you require more information please get in touch.

  • Self defence is a legal right and no one can take that away
  • No school or workplace policy is above the law
  • Your school has a duty of care to your child
  • If they take away your child’s rights to defend themselves they are failing in their duty of care and breaking the law
  • By taking away their right to defend themselves, they are adding duress and stress to your child’s well being and school experience
  • The law as it relates to self defence is crystal clear, if you want to go the extreme. It is legal to kill someone in self defence.
  • If you can prove that you acted with reasonable force and held an honest belief that you or others or property were in danger you acted within the law.
  • The law is for all
  • You can sue your school for taking away these rights

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There’s the legal stuff, now here’s the psychological implications, maybe?

What kind of person would tell a child not to defend themselves?

What message is that giving to them and how does that help when they enter the big wide world on their own?

Imagine putting your child in a boxing ring with another child and saying, “Don’t hit back” Imagine the stress, imagine how helpless and alone and frightening that would be.

Now imagine saying “if you hit back i will punish you, and there are 100 people watching.

Not only can they not stand up for themselves or their friends but they are going to get punished for doing so.

What kind of world is that?

Now explain to me how the above example is any different than sending your kids to school where they are being bullied every day. Sending them there saying, you cannot defend yourself, the teacher said so and they have told us they will call in the police if you do.

I’ll tell you the difference, the school day lasts six hours not like six minutes in a boxing ring, the bully knows he can get away with it and cares nothing about the teacher’s threats of isolation or the police. The boxing ring has a referee so if it gets too messy they stop it, the playground is concrete and there are no rules and bullies operate with friends who will kick you when you are down.

Do you think that might cause stress to your child?

Do you think that might cause anxiety, depression? You don’t have to be a genius to work out where that type of thing can lead, it’s dangerous.

It only stops when the bully decides

OR WHEN YOUR CHILD STANDS UP TO THEM

Kids Bullying School Lies – MINIMUM FORCE

Minimum force always, but take no nonsense, stay safe and change schools to one with an ethical policy on self-defence. To a school that recognises bullies exist and need to be stood up to.

If you cannot find one then simply adopt the attitude of the bully

Stick two fingers up to the dumb rule makers and do whats right, deal with the consequences later, you’ll be better off for it in the long run.

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Martial Arts Breed Violence?

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Martial Arts Breed Violence?

Poppycock 

Martial Arts Breed Violence, this is something we hear a lot.

martial arts breed violence

Often dad brings the kids along and raises concerns that mum believes Martial Arts Breed Violence.

It’s simply not true, ok there might be a small percentage of children that confuse the message early on. Though with good coaching this will be dealt with quickly, and yes, of course, there is always the exception.

Psychopaths make up 1% of the population so knowing that, one in a hundred, well maybe Military school ASAP.

Martial Arts Breed Violence – Play Circuit

Dr. Jaak Panksepp, a neuroscientist, psychologist and psychobiologist has written extensively about the importance of play. He discovered the motivations that the play circuit develops in kids and adults.

Some believe this work to be so important a discovery that the Nobel prize is fitting.

Martial arts develops the play circuit in children and adults. Rough and tumble play clearly defines the differences between aggression and assertiveness. While playing, supervised as in a martial arts classroom setting. Or alone with friends, an extremely important distinction. Children learn what boundaries are acceptable to the group and what is aggression and what is assertiveness.

Martial Arts Breed Violence – Ethics

Play also develops ethics. Martial arts develops ethics and fair play. Games, the classroom, the dojo. Well, there are rules, mostly unspoken otherwise the academy would be wall to wall posters and rules and that’s not much fun for anyone.

Over time the rules of the group, the culture become clear. People that don’t abide by the rules or ethics generally are not accepted into the group. We do get a few of these in the club every now and then, they simply find another club where their behaviour is acceptable, and that’s how society functions.

From street gangs to Olympic teams, the culture of the group dictates.

Martial Arts Breed Violence – Nonsense

No, is basically the answer to “Do Martial Arts Breed Violence”?

But we get it, on the surface, it can appear as if it does.

Remember – It’s better to be a warrior in the garden than a gardener on the battlefield. 

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Mum Knows Best

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Mum Knows Best

Or Does She?

There’s a lot of pressure with kids these days for parents to get everything perfect. Relax, the good parent fails and everything will turn out ok, No one knows best.

The Overbearing Mother, what kid would want to leave home if its made of sweets and everything is done for them? There’s a reason she’s a witch you know..

Mum Knows Best – Responsibility

One of the things you can do that is indisputable and of huge benefit for all is this

Give your kids more control over their own lives, this is without a doubt one of the most important things you can do. Responsibility breeds confidence and the feeling of autonomy is empowering for children.

It shows you trust them to make their own decisions, now you, of course, need to lead a little

Mum Knows Best – Consultant

We’re not talking handing over complete control here. As parents you give guidance, explain the negatives and positives in the different choices available. The ultimate decision should be the kids, and of course, a five-year-old will require a different approach than a hormonal teenager.

The evidence is in and the same applies to kids with ADHD and the wide range of disorders that are ever increasing.

Mum Knows Best – Anxiety Made Worse

It may feel like the right thing to do to protect kids with anxiety a little more than is usual. This can be the single worse thing you can do. It’s well studied, documented and agreed in virtually every profession worth its salt. That over protecting children with anxiety leads to far worse anxiety that can lead to depression and worse.

Overprotecting kids can cause anxiety as it can be interpreted by the child as mistrust. They feel they have no control which is a huge contributing factor to anxiety and depression

Mum Knows Best – Lack Of Control

Think about it, when you feel you have little control over external circumstances it’s somewhat worrying, even frightening. Now think how a ten-year-old or a fifteen-year-old feel. They are going through important brain development stages. They are fantastic at noticing behaviours and such things as control by parents but they are terrible at interpreting them.

Now add the amygdala response feeding cortisol into the system as they feel a lack of control, all this during serious brain development stages.

Mum Knows Best – Don’t Panic

Don’t steal responsibility from them, you won’t be around forever. Or worse, you will be.

“They come to this planet through you, though they are not …….” your’s”

They own their own lives, their problems are their own, control is an illusion.

If this subject fascinates you as much as it does me then here is a great book, to begin with

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Social Media Self Defence

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Social Media Self Defence

It’s A Real Thing 

Social Media Self Defence – Some tips to help

Social Media Self Defence

Social Media Self Defence – Twitter & Facebook are NOT REAL Life

We are in a strange time and place where humans are struggling to adapt to the current technological landscape.

BAD NEWS is, it’s going to get worse before it gets better.

GOOD NEWS is, you can train to keep the wolves and keyboard warriors at bay.

So have you ever commented on a post and before you know it, your being attacked and abused?

The simplest comment can be met with insults and anger. If you haven’t then can you please send me your secret.

Social Media Self Defence – The signs

The first signs are usually people respond with something personal. This is your warning sign, it’s all about the ideas. Let’s say we’re discussing a political idea or a training technique, it doesn’t really matter.

The thing we’re discussing is an idea, we are not our idea’s, ideas can change. As soon as someone criticises you and not your idea the conversation is going well off track.

Simply respond with “Can we leave me out of this, i’d like to stick with the subject and idea”

I have been in debates where people have gone completely insane and insulting. I keep repeating this until they get it and we continue or i leave the conversation.

Social Media Self Defence – Go ahead punk, change my mind

I always like to squeeze in the invitation, go ahead punk, change my mind. I mean it, if your idea is better than my own then I’m shifting my paradigm over, that’s what I live for. I’m not here to prove I’m right, so prove my idea wrong or weak.

Imagine a world where politicians acted like that. Instead of turning up to argue and prove a point. Turn up to get to the best outcome, so in the end, we all win. We can dream eh!

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Social Media Self Defence – Insane rabbit head 

It’s always helpful to remember that. If a man in a rabbit head mask shouted across the street. “you have absolutely no idea how to xxxxxxxxx” You wouldn’t automatically think “oh let’s sit down and discuss this, i need to explain my life to you”

No, you’d think, fruitcake stay out of my life in off for a coffee. Social media is the same, random strangers with random profile pics. Saying random things often for no reason than to antagonise others.

There possibly also 12 years old and have nothing better to do than bait people much much wiser.

Social Media Self Defence – Stay Free

Don’t get caught up in it. It’s not real and while in the moment it can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions. Its simply a keyboard and a screen, turn it off.

No one, and I mean no one will care or remember a few hours later.

He who controls emotions controls the fight

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The Absolute Worst Predators to Deal With: A Guide for Martial Artists

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Bullies are predators

Bullies are predatorsFor both kids and adults, there are certain predators that you never want to deal with. Those violent persons that enjoy violence are among the worst of the worst to deal with. The mugger may take your money and leave. Social violence can often be diffused easily in some cases. Dealing with someone prone to violence and willing to inflict a high level of violence leaves you with no options but to defend yourself.

Basically, the assailant is not giving you any other option. Your person and your life may be threatened by such a predator.

There may be ways of warding off such a person. Yelling at him to stop in a firm and sound voice could draw the attention of other people. That means witnesses and the predator does not want to deal with witnesses. He definitely does not want to deal with a mob that is interested in inflicting violence.

Predators like to pick on easy victims

You can also look the part of a non-victim. How can this be achieved? If you have a strong, confident posture, you are, most likely, not someone easily picked on. A person training seriously in the martial arts ends up with a look and a physique that probably gives off a sense of being strong and physically capable. Predators may choose to avoid selecting you as a victim. Even the worst of the worst predators might opt to leave you alone.

However, you have to be prepared and skilled to deal with an attack by a predator.

Defending against a predator

When you are involved in a physical confrontation with someone, you are supposed to use the proper amount of a response to nullify the threat. With social violence, a restraint hold may be enough. In seriously violent situations, you may have to, for lack of a better term, knock the assailant out so you can escape. This is not necessarily easy.

It would be ludicrous to infer that there are any simple or easy solutions to dealing with a serious predator that can be put into a written article. You will have to train with an instructor. In your training, you will want to be involved with a program that helps increase your cardio and strength levels and you also want training that teaches you how to deal with the contact of an altercation. Without these two components, you might not find your ability to defend yourself workable.

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